It’s the dilemma that plagues many a wedding guest – how much money to splash out on a gift for the happy couple? But one pair of newlyweds has sparked a furious online debate after emailing a guest to say her gift wasn’t generous enough. Wait, what?
The unnamed guest took to a Mumset forum asking for advice in how to respond after she was told the £100 cheque she’d given in response to a request for cash had fallen short of the mark.
The guest, who was an ex-colleague of the bride, explained she was “gobsmacked” that the couple had been rude enough to complain about her £100 contribution.
According to the poster, known only as Puzzledandp***sedoff, the email she received read:
“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”
The woman believes that the reference to her ‘position’ was most likely about a recent inheritance.
The poster then went on to ask the forum for advice in how she should react. “For someone who’s not easily shocked I confess I’m utterly gobsmacked by this,” she wrote.
“Please, anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it – but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what?”
Unsurprisingly, the posting sparked a huge response from readers with more than a thousand replies in three days, many urging her to cancel the cheque.
“Rudest thing I’ve ever heard. Please cancel cheque and buy us all cakes,” one user wrote.
“Grabby and greedy is really an understatement here. On reflection, I think I might email “You MUST be kidding?!” back to her with no other comment and then never speak to them again,” another added.
“I would email back but BCC any mutual friends in so they are able to see the email for themselves or send a glitter bomb as the extra :P,” one viewer wrote. “That is entitled and grabby. It’s a gift not an obligation and many people wouldn’t have given so much to an ex colleague.”
Others thought the best way to deal with it would be to ask what would have been an ‘appropriate’ amount.
“What amount do you feel would adequately reflect the warmth of my good wishes? My pen is poised over my chequebook,” quipped one user. “Meanwhile I’d be contacting some of the others who were at the wedding to ask who else received an email (because if you got one having given £100 I suspect most people will have got one).” Yahoo News
