SOUTH AFRICA – Controversial singer Kelly Khumalo has said that it is tough raising a child that is the spitting image of a Jub Jub, the man she once accused of physically abusing her in the past.
In a widely publicised case, Khumalo alleged that Jub Jub had assaulted her on various occasions while they were together.
In an Instagram post Kelly said raising her son, who looks like the mirror image of her father, was a hard task as he looked just like him.
“There’s one thing that we probably never talk about, especially as single moms — raising children or a child of a man who physically abused you, even more, so that child looks exactly like that person.
“How much healing it takes to raise a child and to see the child for who they are and not who their father is,” she said.
Khumalo said that what made it hard was that the children of mothers who were once with abusers served as a constant reminder of what their fathers did to them.
“How boldly, one had to be to see beyond what is a constant reminder of someone who hurt you, and it’s worse if that person continues to hurt you in their absence.
“Whatever chance they get, they want to step on you and remind you of how they hurt you in the past, but you continue to be a great mom, you choose to be a great mom,” said Khumalo.
“You choose to be a better person and a better parent, and you choose to heal for your child’s sake because, at the end of the day, that child is not just an image of his or her father, but your image too.
“So you choose to see you in them, rather than the person who hurt you. It’s tough. We don’t talk about it, but it’s tough.”
In a police statement made before Jub Jub’s trial, Khumalo had reportedly said that the musicians cum presenter pushed her against the wall and choked her, while she was about eight months pregnant with their son.
Khumalo also told the cops a second incident occurred when Jub Jub came to pick her up after filming for Rhythm City in June 2010.
On that occasion, she alleged the rapper found her outside the studio with co-actors, and accused her of having a relationship with one of them. Upon arriving at their residence, Jub Jub slapped her, she said.
In two other separate incidents in 2010, Khumalo said the rapper punched her so hard that she hit a door frame and injured her nose while in another incident, he hit her with his fist on her lip, causing a scar that remains to this day.
Charges against Jub Jub were withdrawn by the state in July last year.
