Lesbian author from Zimbabwe fights stigma

Posted on Mar 6 2013 - 7:35pm by admin

UNITED STATES – Only a teenager when she came to the U.S., Ruth Marimo had already survived scrapes and heartbreaks from the suicide of her mother when she was a young child to her lonely flights to the U.K. and the U.S.

Ruth Marimo

Ruth Marimo

Finally settled on U.S. shores, she married an American citizen, they had two children but wedded bliss turned into a nightmare as she confronted her sexual identity and he turned on her in physical rage.

Her immigration status was the weak link in the chain and her husband reported her to immigration and deportation proceedings ensued.

Fortunately the attempt failed but in the interim, she spent time in detention where she began to jot down her feelings and confront all the truths and issues our society shuns, from racism, illegal immigration, and homosexuality to sexual and domestic abuse.

It was a book for her children – Chido and Simba – who could soon be left abandoned as she was at age 6. She also found hope in accepting herself as an African woman who is gay.

Those notes from prison and beyond have been compiled in a new book called “Freedom of an illegal Immigrant: The Untold Story of My Search for a Place in the World.”

Speaking to Sahara TV’s Fungai Maboreke, Ms. Marimo asserted that she is one among many African women who are lesbian or have such sensibilities but cannot come out in the open due to social, cultural and quasi-political idiosyncrasies.

“I’ve heard endless stories of people who come out to me,” she said. “Some obviously keep it secretive and stay in their heterosexual marriages even though they are having other relationships on the side…”

Now in a same-sex relationship, she and her partner are raising her two girls aged 8 and 4 and her 8 year old is an academic achiever, able to outwit children older than herself in any spelling bee. They live in Omaha, Nebraska, where she attends the Metropolitan Church.

The 33-year-old still writes. She writes poetry, which she reads publicly each month.

Maboreke recalled the intolerance and prejudice against gays displayed by Zimbabwe President Robert Mugabe when he scorned them as “worse than pigs.” To this, Ruth Marimo retorted: “He is entitled to his opinion, but his opinion does not define who I am”

ruth marimo bookHer book has taken her for readings around the country and between the harshly negative feedback from fellow Africans there have been wonderful supportive emails and Facebook posts. One reviewer on Amazon wrote about the book:

“It’s so powerful and touching that I broke my personal rule against crying in public, TWICE. Ruth has risen above HELL by the grace of God and through her amazing spirit. I encourage everyone who needs to find inner strength to read this.”

Published by AuthorHouse, the book is available online here

Another reviewer wrote: “This is an awesome story of a wonderful woman who, had it not been for her belief in God, probably would not have survived all that she went through. This is one of those books that you start and can’t put down!”

Observers might questions the placement of a woman’s unclothed figure on the book’s cover. She explained: “I’ve taken off all the layers that society has placed on me. I’m living the life I always wanted to live. I’m doing fine!” SaharaReporters.com 

  • forjustice

    “worse than pigs”kkkkkkkk true say

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003383583401 Collen Muchenje

    Shame…satan regera vanhu….kukurudzira kauku..Lol.

  • EvangelistInnocent Kamasho

    Ndinzwireiwo vanhu vaMwari

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003322263260 Jerico Tawanda Mashiri

    Munhu ariGay kana lesbian iwe usri anokukanganisei kuda zvinhu.

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003322263260 Jerico Tawanda Mashiri

    Munhu ariGay kana lesbian iwe usri anokukanganisei kuda zvinhu.

  • Elixir Rawhad

    Ndezve ikoko ku america, mumusha medu kwete !

  • Elixir Rawhad

    Ndezve ikoko ku america, mumusha medu kwete !

  • Magie

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  • Anonymous

    Honestly, lesbians don’t bother me that much. It must be one’s right to choose really. African culture don’t tolerate gays, hence they remain in closet. This issue should not take much of our time scolding and/or hugging on the matter.

  • Promise

    Uhu hunhu hausi hwedu! This is a cancer which should not be encouraged but arrested instead. Varwere vanoda kunamatirwa. God does not make mistakes. The way one was created is not a mistake… We will pray for her and others similarly afflicted so that they may seek & find peace within God’s parameters.

  • leegy

    Kupenga uku,unoshorerei zvavakapihwa nashe? Sure god does not make mistakes,he wanted you to be what he made you.

  • JEFRY

    Gara ikoko, kurasa hunhu chisikana! Huya kumushe ukwirwe nevarume chaivo! Chomari paHarare chinhu chaurikutambisa ichi

  • jackovic

    Stay there and never come here to Zimbabwe.

  • Anonymous

    Bloody mambara

  • Anonymous

    1 Corinthians 6:9 Do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God………18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

    Only people who respect JEHOVAH as their creator will respect these words………

    So Ms Ruth we are not here to make the decision for you but we are here just to give you advice then you will have to make your own decision based on the advice you have received.

    The choice is yours……..Take it or leave it……but if i was you I’d take it.

    • Perfect

      It’s her life. Let her live it the way she desires. Imi munosvora musaita kunge makachena. Imbwa dzevanhu. Vana venyu vachaitawo ngotchani, mazidzoro. Basa rekusweroita zvivi zvenyu muchivande asi moita basa rekushoropodza vamwe vari kuzviraramira hupenyu hwavo. Mizitsipa inenge ngamera yaking abdulla.

  • Tavaziva

    Kanhumbu kamunhu aka,kugara pasi kutonyora bhuku kani rekuda vamwe vakadzi.

    Pedzezwo atanga kuti anoenda ku church, asi kwavo hakuna Holy Bible kani?

  • selby

    Kukundwa nenguruve chaiyo, hausati wakamboona dzichiita same sex marriage. Gara ikoko u r not welcome here.

  • tongo the general

    Ma zimba makasara…..kungosvero ita opposition to gays apa kanyika kenyu hakana kana road,mosiririsa.

    • selby

      Road rekuenda kupi rawashaya? Rekunouta hungochani? Gara nemaroad ako

      • samanyika

        lool taura hako mzaya

  • truth

    ngochani taramba … gara ikoko..its better to eat scrambles than to feast in same sex life, u are a disgrace to humanity and its creator..shame to u, .. God loves u, repent and He wil restore ur satanic desire for another woman

  • samanyika

    apa kakashata futi, m yet kuona lesbian yakanaka

  • pG M

    Iwe nehandaradio hatidi nyaya dzakaora.

  • pope john nkomo

    VARUNGU VAKAPATA ZVESHUWA, SISTREN AVA VAINGODA MAPEPA CHETE. Pmabhudhi vekuTexas vangavakuda kuDepotwa vakamhanya kunokisa ghadhijere vachiti ingochani, vanohla kuuraiwa naMugabe kana vakadepotwa. Kunyepa chaiko. Kuzoita vana two vangavasingazivi here kuti igochi ngochi