UK woman from Zimbabwe living with her husband and lover in same house

Posted on Mar 5 2013 - 5:16pm by admin

LONDON – A 33 year old woman originally from Zimbabwe is making international headlines after deciding to stay in the same house with her husband and lover.

“People might think it’s weird but I love both men and couldn’t choose between them,” the mum of two told the UK Daily Mirror.

Loved up: Paul, left, Maria and Peter

Loved up: Paul, left, Maria and Peter (Picture by Daily Mirror)

Maria Vogel Butzki, 33, originally from Bulawayo, now shares the family home in Barking, London, with her children Laura, 16, and Amy, 12 and the two men in her life Paul Butzki and Peter Gruman.

Maria, who grew up in Saurcetown and did part of her secondary education at Northlea, was 15 when she met Paul in school and she fell pregnant with Laura two years later. The couple got married before they had their second daughter, Amy, but the relationship hit a rocky patch in 2006.

Maria said “Paul was out of work for six months and it put a strain on our ­relationship. The stress led to less sex and we grew apart. Although we carried on with life – cooking, cleaning, looking after the child­ren – we’d lost our intimacy. The relationship was more brother and sister than a couple.”

When Maria left her husband Paul for another man, she didn’t realise how much she’d miss him. At the same time, she couldn’t imagine living without her new lover Peter Gruman. So when the two men struck up an extraordinary friendship, she came up with the perfect solution… and moved Peter into the family home in Barking, East London.

“When I left Paul there was a huge hole in my life. But the thought of never seeing Peter again was heart-breaking. So living with both men is the only way.”

High five: One big happy family (Picture by Daily Mirror)

High five: One big happy family (Picture by Daily Mirror)

Incredibly, the men agree. Paul, a railway assessor, says:

“Peter is a great guy. When Maria first had the affair with him I was just heartbroken. But as I got to know him, I realised we have so much in common. We both adore fishing, and he’s like a surrogate dad to the kids.”

Peter, a construction site manager, adds: “We all get on so well. It doesn’t feel as if I’m ­sharing Maria. There’s no ­jealousy …it feels as if we are a team.”

Gone fishing: Pals Peter and Paul

Gone fishing: Pals Peter and Paul

It was last year that they all moved in ­together after three years of ­Maria to-ing and fro-ing between her husband and lover. Peter sleeps on the sofa while Paul has a room ­upstairs. Maria shares a bedroom with her eldest daughter.

She says: “The three of us never share a bed. Although I have a sexual relationship with each man, that side is kept very private. If Paul is out, then Peter and I might make love, and vice-versa. But both men turn a blind eye and we never discuss it with one another.”

“Some people are shocked, mostly because they get the wrong idea and think it’s some sort of threesome,” she says.

“Most people seem to think I should just remain with Paul, but those who see all of us ­together think differently.” She adds: “There are huge benefits to living together. For example, as Paul and I leave for work early, Peter is often able to take the children to school.

“Ultimately the children benefit from three adults able to help with school work or give them lifts. Financially too, it makes sense as the bills are split three ways.”

Ironically, Maria is now the one who sometimes gets jealous. “I’m left on my own when the pair of them go on a long fishing trip,” she says.

She’s unsure what the sleeping arrangements will be in their new house. “But we would never have any sort of rota where I sleep with Peter one night and Paul the next. I do know I’m very lucky to have two wonderful men in my life.” Daily Mirror

  • Martin_Shaisamufaro_Luther

    What this airhead doesn’t know is that these men are actually making a fool out of her.

  • Kudakwashe

    aaaah

  • Chief

    The end time is here

  • Mpumi

    If African men can have multiple wives, why can’t women have multiple husbands???? Or does male chauvinism control our culture?

    • Rue

      Because 1. Two wrongs do not make a right. 2. Because we are better than men. If women lose it, there is no hope for human race. That’s why in our culture, women who drink and smoke are looked down upon more than men who do. If you want to excercise you woman’s right to do what’s wrong, don’t cry foul if you lose respect. There is always a price to pay. One day those two fools will wake up and leave the tart. Where will she be then, huh?

    • Chikuyochisamarengu

      The fact that we( men) pay lobola to the wife’s family, is why they can not have multiple husbands! If i could have a woman who can pay lobola to my family, i would allow her to have it her way……LOL!

    • truth be told

      Absolutely right, you are: it’s male chauvinism; it’s double standards; and it’s subordination of women. Consider this: why don’t women pay lobola in the Zimbabwean context? Of course it’s a cultural mandate but it’s unfair to guys too (double standards in an era of equality). The material motivation is everywhere, even for this threesome!

  • Pascalia Tinashe

    Ko hanti makaradhi,haana hunhu

  • https://www.facebook.com/100001832253774 Vincent Zindoga

    i won’t stay

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003057066602 Lovemore Mukwena

    Ari kushandisa muviri zvinemusoro

  • Mai Nicole

    A woman for a change, hanti vamwe varume vanogarawo ne more than one woman in one house kkkkk

  • Celia Ushe

    what a fool.

  • Annatiwi Mutasa

    uuuuuuh chipari ka ichi taiti varume ndivo vanobvumiirwa hey aaaah zvirikuvaitira mainini

  • https://www.facebook.com/100001344803896 Tashinga Dengezi

    set aside cultural differences. Equal rites. Poligamy balanced….

  • Romel Thembelani Nkobi-Ndlovu

    hmmm only in essex

  • lala

    nigga lets give this bitch a lesson lol

  • Ezra Emani Zabanyana

    I

  • https://www.facebook.com/100001824828542 Rajah Wishy

    Pornographication z wat corrupted her mind otherwise sexologist Rajah has advised th public nt to panic as this is a common phenomenon apon prostitutes in their sisterhood and brotherhood

  • AFRICAN

    ABOMINATION.

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003580587254 Admore Moyo

    Mukadzi uyu zvinoreva kuti ndiye akaroora.

  • https://www.facebook.com/177685012299324 Meet Other Singles Zimbabweans in United Kingdom

    MuNdebele mukadzi uyu nekuti hakuna mushona anoita zvakadyi kugara nengochani mbiri,

    • Mandla

      Wafarisa hure.

  • https://www.facebook.com/100001957950833 Richard Muwata

    1st tyme in History 2 dis stupid thng I nv dis even in da bok of Records

  • Nelly

    this woman must be sweetoooo……i need one like hers….damn.

    • Big Daddy C

      Nelly…She is full of sweet nothing…Do you know that drink sweetoo?How does it taste?????Thats her…..

      • Nelly

        with that explanation i just got so disgusted…nasty, u are so damn right

  • pamasku

    Yikaka le yona. These guys r gay anyway and she, shame on her. Prostitution at its tips

  • equalrights

    Hey…who am I to judge

    • Sonny

      Amen!

  • Honourable General Bizimungu

    ayas hazvisi zvechihure-hure izvi?

  • https://www.facebook.com/100001684802714 William N Rusike

    Nonses devil is at wrk.

  • Pinky

    kushoresa isu ma keda as we are affectionately known nxaa

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003596574411 Rodger Mutengezi

    Bulshit!!!

  • Bone Crusher

    They will finish her completely and dump her… Stupid woman, SHE IS FINISHED.. Now they will turn to the kids.. SHAME…

  • Lazarus Huku

    This woman must be punished and killed.this is misuse our culture.

  • Kuda

    These two men look Gay no wonder they would co exist like that. Its not about her but about them (The two) Its a perfect triangle where the two guys are in fact the ones in love and she woman thinks she is great in bed. Makaradhi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Ruey

      You know Kuda, you could be right. Otherwise, its just too weird. One wonders what happens on those fishing trips she is complaining about. Maybe she is the one being taken for a ride thinking she is clever.

  • https://www.facebook.com/100005307063315 Peter Madzenenga

    This is nonsense

  • stopper2011

    God have mercy on this women that she come to realise before its too late,The Bible clearly states that man shall leave his family and women and become one flesh .It didn’t say two man will leave there families and one women .Its clear abomination least we don’t say it out.

  • Biggy Mhanda

    Ndookushaya nyaya uku . this is a fake story.

  • Phil ZamaMtimande Mvelase

    Iwe Meet other singles Zimabbweans in United Kingdom yeuNdevere yazopinda papi pa nyaya iyii kwanhai semari yebhazi mxxxxxm nonsense

  • Rue

    “Some people are shocked, mostly because they get the wrong idea and think its some kind of threesome.” It is some kind of threesome, even if they don’t all sleep together (so they say), but the difference is the same. Marriage is between 2 people. This is what we call barika(polygamy). The woman is loose and wacko. The guys need to have their heads examined honestly. For someone to do something like this is bad enough, but to think its so cool that they can shout about it, it means they are beyond help.

  • Rex Nhongo

    manenji sure sure! Its the GMO stuff or mind altering drugs that have given them an unhinged take to life….varume vacho vanotopenga zvekupenga zviya. Anywhere it is there life but i feel sorry for the kids. brought up in such environment, being exposed to this lifestyle and obviously now that the story is out in public, they are now being mocked by their peers. ramangwana ravo harina kujeka!!

  • Rex Nhongo

    Proves a point tho….life in the UK is not easy and people are going to any lengths to survive. dzokai dande muyamwe!!

    • Chabwino

      But Cde Rex….. I thought you were dead and buried?

      • Cde Rex Nhongo

        Takaipa Takaipa….vaida kundiuraya zvakaramba. Actor haafe…..

  • Big Daddy C

    This woman is a fool, a bitch,crazy..Cant she smell a rat a mile away?She is even abusing her kids..Reading about mum staying with two men like this.What do the kids say,feel or think?What are other kids saying to her kids or about her kids.These men are just finding a way of them loving each other openly they are gay for heavens sake..Going fishing and think it ends there.It is a shame to even be associated with her.Imagine what everyone is saying…Think of the kids stupid woma-selfish..

  • tinto

    mandevere mahure evanhu, but pamafesi aya hapashaye ari kupisa chimwana icho or ingochani idzo

    • Annoyed by tribalists

      wena tinto amatswina izifebe zabantu…..nxi donki yomuntu

      • Chabwino

        Come on guys why are you insulting each other like that? None of the people in the weird story are either Shona or Ndebele in any case. In case you have forgotten, we are well into the 21st century. Gone are the days of Mzilikazi and Changamire Dombo!

    • Cde Rex Nhongo

      iwe zvibate mandevere chii chacho?

    • Major Musango

      taura hako

    • Mwana webvu

      tinto u illiterate idiot who thinks everyone from byo and is beautiful is ndebele, nja yothuvi! Svina eliphila ngamagundwane! Ufuz uyihlomkhulu uMgabe shit!

    • Colonel Nicholas J. Fury

      shut up

  • http://www.sondeza.com/ Dogstar

    Bloody sick pervets

  • https://www.facebook.com/100001205100356 Valentine Manyau

    POLYANDRY at its work.yep.the two men are homosexuals.they are the ones benefitting from this nonsense

  • https://www.facebook.com/100003672165725 David Mugwazi

    Ndiko kunonzi kupenga uku

  • Bee

    Cant stop vomiting…….

  • Moses Marukutira Muvungani

    Varume ava havana basa nomukadzi uyu nokuti ivo vanodanana se ngochani .Huye mukadzi uyu will get her children abused ne varume vava . Unofunga kuti vakapusa here varume ava.Vese vane zvavarikuwana pazviri, Pane ka secret karipo kekuti ukakanzwa bvudzi rinomira.Nyika yaparara!

  • Sonny

    I do not know what the fuss is about. What people do in their private quarters, gay or not, does not ever put food in my plate. It does not affect my well being because Mary is Jane or with Peter and Steven, or Steve is with Paul. I have more problems that are more immediate than being the moral cop of other people when the value systems we are often born into as often as diverse as we all are. I am living a stress life because of minding my own business. Thank you. PS By the way the blokes that rush to Ndebele this, Shona that, Makharadi just cheapen the commentary thread all the time and stave off the sanity of the discussion and derail its direction. Ndo huduzvi manje when you do that njalo yibulema nxa lawe uphendula.

  • https://www.facebook.com/100002125251333 Wellington Mukanza

    iyi ndiyo minana manje tjo

  • pcmavhura

    ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING! WHAT IS SHE TRYING TO TEACH HER DAUGHTERS? THAT ONE CAN ACTUALLY BE A HUMAN BITCH RIGHT?

  • joey

    What? Cant biliv this

  • Farayi

    If this was a man, would we have some of these derogatory comments? If it’s working for them let them be, better than some people living double lives.

  • Nyamavende

    These two guys are bonking each other

  • Chokwadi

    Hapana chinoshamisa apa, they’re comfortable in their skins while you not. In the UK its very common to have husbands take their wives to swingers clubs where they’ll have sex with their lovers. Most of them watch and some participate. There are tons & tons of swinging sites where people who aren’t into that advertise for meet ups. Those husbands love their wives more than most of you being abusive here. Such arrangements eliminate the need to cheat(which hurts others feelings more, mopedzesera maakuurayana nemapanga mabatwa), unlike most of you here who are being cheated by your wives behind your backs whether you like it or not ndiyo iri kutambika muma basa umu. Ini this arrangement handiikwanise, but it doesn’t mean I should blast someone who has tried it and found it worked for them. Instead of chastising this trio, look at your own relationships that need fixing and do something about it quick.

  • Chokwadi
  • http://www.survivordate.com survivordate

    ah ah ah not even survivordate.com has stories like this!

  • Tavaziva

    these 2 gay men vakawana cover yenzenza.

  • Evans

    This is a timing bomb my dear.Better you choose one I prefer that you choose the father of the children before it is a catastrophy to the whole family.

  • Mashoko Kuwanda

    In Zim we have no such a stupid culture. The lady might have lied that she is a Zimbabwean.

  • BOSS

    Makeda, mandevere…………need i say more

  • PrettyBambino

    hapana zviripo those two are just trying to convince the world and their families kuti ey arent gay otherwise ndonyaya mukadzi uyo is just a cover up nd gettin finacial help in return kutotorwa pikitsha.zvakaoma

  • Fairgame

    Vakadzi barika tinorigona zvakanyanya its only that hatina kunge takapihwa mukana nesociety,Variety tinoidawo chaizvo ,kusvotwa kunoita vanhurume nemukadzi mumwe ndiko kwatinoitwawo nemurume mumwe.Uyu zvake akazviwanira varume vanonzwisisa.

  • Major Musango

    The Gruman guy may be aiming for your daughters…………..watch out

  • Rude Gal

    i do understand her coz i was in the same situation once. but at the end of the day, you cant love two men at once..thats a total lie! theres is only one that she loves most..it might be that she feels sorry for one of them, but she doesnt love both. when i was in that situation, i sat down and thot about it and realised that i loved one more that i loved the other. but its possible..not to that point tho.